Domestic violence is once again in the forefront of the news. It’s not always obvious that you’re in an abusive relationship. Learn some of the key signs to look for.


One of the reasons women get caught up in unhealthy relationships is that abusers can be very charming. They can appear confident, attentive and sweet and they have an intoxicating energy when pursuing a woman. Below are some indicators that you may be dating someone who has potential to become abusive.


Love-bombing:- Abusers may use “love-bombing” to win you over. They’re full of compliments and offer intense attention when trying to win a woman’s heart. They will tell you you’re unlikely anyone-else they’ve ever fret. Putting you up on a pedestal ensures that you’re reliant on them to take you down.


Monitoring:- At first it may seems romantic that he wants to know everything about you. Interest is good. Invasions of privacy are not. Where are you? When will you be back? Can I read your texts? What’s your Facebook password? If you hear a lot of questions like these, be careful. Expect your boundaries to be respected. Pay attention to the response you get when you ask for privacy. It should be accepted without question.


Manufacturing jealousy:- Jealousy-Abusers love reassurance that you want only them. They will create situations designed to make you feel jealous or that your relationship is threatened. They thrive on keeping you in a state of insecurity and are skilled at making even the most confident woman question where she stands.


Picking fights:- Abusers like to assess how much you will take. They will start out testing you with small arguments to see if you’ll forgive them. Overtime, these fights will get as big as you let them. The common element of these tests is that they usually make absolutely no sense. You will not be able to figure out what you’ve done wrong or why you’re apologizing.


Note:- Women are love optimists and can spend years hanging on promises but sadly, it is just not likely that an abuser will change. World is full of healthy people. Don’t be afraid to treat yourself and start again. It’s not easy to walk away from an abusive relationship but life is better on other side.


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